Divorced or Suddenly Single? How to Embrace Valentine’s Day!

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How to Make Valentine’s Day After Divorce a Day of Renewal

Valentine’s Day can be complicated after a divorce – or even while you’re quietly considering one.

Valentine’s Day after divorce can feel complicated and emotional. While others celebrate romance, you may be navigating uncertainty, grief, or a brand-new beginning. Family law attorneys consistently report an increase in divorce inquiries after the holidays. The stress of November and December, the pressure to “hold it together” for family gatherings, and the natural reflection that comes with the New Year often lead couples to reassess their relationships. Some spouses also choose to wait until after the first of the year for financial reasons – including the ability to file taxes jointly if they were still legally married on December 31, depending on what makes sense for their specific financial situation.

By the time February arrives, emotions can still be raw. While the world celebrates roses and romance, you may be navigating uncertainty, grief, relief – or a complicated mix of all three.… View Full Article → “Divorced or Suddenly Single? How to Embrace Valentine’s Day!”

New Year’s Eve After Divorce: Tips on How to Make a New Beginning

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New Year’s Eve After Divorce Tips

How to Approach New Year’s Eve After Divorce with Confidence

PUBLISHER’S UPDATE: Congratulations! We have all made it through Christmas and now New Year’s Eve is just a few days away. I have been considering what to post this week that was timely and relevant. I remembered the great piece we originally posted many years ago that Donna Ferber had written for her first book, From Ex-Wife to Exceptional Life: A Woman’s Journey through Divorce. I received a lot of compliments about it then. It is the perfect time to repost it! Enjoy! Her book is great and I share it with many divorce clients!

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Will I Likely Be Happier After My Divorce?

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Will You Find Happiness After Divorce? Insights & Tips

Many of my divorce clients ask, “Will I find happiness after divorce?” While there’s no guaranteed answer, many people do find greater peace, freedom, and fulfillment after ending a marriage that wasn’t working. There are steps you can take to keep you from becoming paralyzed by the divorce process. From reports I hear from my former clients, the answer to this question is usually “Yes “!

How Common Is Happiness After Divorce?

I am a bit of a geek when it comes to looking at statistics. I saw an article a while ago on MovingPastDivorce.com regarding a survey that Terry Gaspard commissioned. Terry is a licensed social worker and counselor in Rhode Island. Reading her bio and a recent interview with her by Social Work Guide, she appears very accomplished. Click here to read that interview.

Ms. Gaspard, through her company, recently contacted more than 2,000 people who had been divorced for at least three years.… View Full Article → “Will I Likely Be Happier After My Divorce?”

What To Do If Your Life Is A Mess After Divorce

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Mess After Divorce: It’s possible for you to love your life again.

It’s a tricky, devious, exhausting struggle, this whole getting-over-a-relationship thing. And if you have been married, you know there is a lot more at stake than just a romantic hit-and-run. Marriage means you were vested in something bigger than just “two people in love.” So, if your life is a mess after divorce, it’s no wonder.

Think about what it’s like to pack up and move from a house you have lived in for 10, 20, 30 years. Now imagine the task as an effort to downsize.

Everything that was once neatly in its place (on cleaning day, anyway) is now…well…everywhere. Essentials, non-essentials, mementos, family heirlooms, favorites-for-no-good-reason. It’s all unearthed, waiting for a decision to be made on its destiny.

Your home is a mess. Your life is a mess. After divorce, this metaphor comes to life in every area of your existence.… View Full Article → “What To Do If Your Life Is A Mess After Divorce”

What To Do If You’re Struggling With Life After Divorce

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7 Steps For You to Take That Can Make Your Life After Divorce A Life You Love Again

Divorce is rarely easy. It marks the end of something you thought would last forever – through thick and thin. And when your dreams are destroyed, moving forward from the destruction can be really, really hard. What you need to know first is you’re not alone. Struggling with life after divorce is pretty common.

If fact, at least 50% of everyone who divorces struggles with moving on with their lives. I know this because there’s usually one spouse who decides divorce is the answer while the other wants to work on the marriage. And, as you know, it only takes one to make the decision to divorce.

However, not everyone who decides divorce is the answer to the problems in their marriage finds it easy to move on with their life. Many of the deciders struggle with life after divorce too.… View Full Article → “What To Do If You’re Struggling With Life After Divorce”