Divorce: How To Choose And Manage Your Battles

By Guest Contributor Donna F. Ferber, LPC, LADC   |   October 27th, 2012

10 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Taking Divorce Legal Action

The dissolution of their marriage offers the opportunity for each partner to stand up for themselves in a way they had not before. Bravo! Finding your voice and learning assertiveness skills can create better relationships with others while assisting you in getting what you need.

Sometimes though, in our desire to not let ourselves be hurt or abused again, we may become inflexible and unwilling to give in on anything. If we become rigid, we cross the line into aggressive behavior. This new contentious behavior can backfire. In the realm of divorce, it can create additional problems such as higher legal bills, increased acrimony with our ex, tension with our kids and conflict in our daily lives.

Rolling over and acquiescing to everyone and everything isn’t the answer either. We must learn to choose our battles; it’s old advice, but good advice.… View Full Article → “Divorce: How To Choose And Manage Your Battles”

Divorce Linked to Stroke in Men

By Robert "Chip" Mues   |   October 20th, 2012

Study Shows Higher Risk Of Stroke For Men Of Parental Divorce

It often is said that children are the most affected by divorce. Now a Toronto study has found that men with divorced parents are significantly more likely to suffer a stroke than men from intact families, according to a recent study from the University of Toronto. The study, published in the International Journal of Stroke, shows that adult men who had experienced parental divorce before they turned 18 are three times more likely to suffer a stroke than men whose parents did not divorce. Women from divorced families did not have a higher risk of stroke than women from intact families.

The Toronto Star reports the University of Toronto researchers examined data from the US Center for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta (CDC) from a health risk survey involving 4,074 males and 5,886 females.  According to Esme Fuller-Thomson, Chair at University of Toronto’s Factor-Inwentash Faculty of Social Work and Department of Family and Community Medicine and lead author of the study, “the strong association we found for males between parental divorce and stroke is extremely concerning.”… View Full Article → “Divorce Linked to Stroke in Men”

Injury Claim: Please Do Not Wait “Til The Midnight Hour”

By Mark Segreti   |   October 13th, 2012

Consult An Attorney Early To Avoid Losing Out On An Injury Claim!

I am borrowing from the classic Wilson Pickett hit song in the 1960’s to emphasize the importance of discussing an injury or a loss with an attorney as soon as practicable. The lyrics are:

“I’m gonna wait ‘til the midnight hour’
That’s when my love comes tumbling down
I’m gonna wait ‘til the midnight hour’
When there’s no one else around”

So often a person has a potential claim whether it is for a personal injury claim, property damage, breach of a contract or lease, discrimination or adverse action during employment, or otherwise, but by the time an attorney is informed and reviews the facts it is too late to proceed with a court case. It is a mistake to wait until “the midnight hour” because it is often unclear when the deadline is for particular claims to be brought to court.… View Full Article → “Injury Claim: Please Do Not Wait “Til The Midnight Hour””

Child Custody Dispute to be Decided By the U.S. Supreme Court

By Anne Shale   |   October 6th, 2012

Active Military Members Fight For International Child Custody In The United States Courts

Jeffrey Lee Chafin v. Lynne Hales Chafin

Docket 11-1347

Facts of the Case:

  1. Jeffrey Lee Chafin, a citizen of the United States and an active duty member of the United States Army, is the biological Father of Eris Chafin, now five (5) years of age.
  2. Lynne Hales Chafin is a citizen of Scotland and the biological Mother of Eris Chafin.
  3. The parties met in 2005 while Father was stationed in Germany and married in March 2006 in the country of Scotland.  Eris Chafin was born in 2007 while Father was still stationed in Germany.  Eris is considered to have dual citizenship as a citizen of the United States and as a citizen of Scotland.
  4. Sgt. Chafin was deployed to Afghanistan for fifteen (15) months in 2007 and 2008.  During that period of time, Mother and the minor child lived in her native country, Scotland.  
… View Full Article → “Child Custody Dispute to be Decided By the U.S. Supreme Court”

Social Media Issues in Divorce Litigation – The New Frontier

By Charles W. Morrison   |   September 29th, 2012

It is no longer a secret that attorneys that work in the domestic relations arena are mining social media networking sites, such as Facebook, for helpful evidence about the opposing party.  A person’s Facebook page is often a very fertile source of embarrassing information that may help sway a judge’s opinion about which parent is best to be the primary caregiver for the children at issue.  That is why it is extremely important for those engaged in a custody battle to be cognizant of what information about themselves (and their children) that they are choosing to share with the world on social media networking sites.

The old adage that “a picture is worth a thousand words” is very often true, especially when the picture is speaking to the lifestyle habits of a parent.  Anyone can dress nicely and appear respectful when testifying in court, but it’s what they do when they are unaware someone is looking that is the true test of their character.  … View Full Article → “Social Media Issues in Divorce Litigation – The New Frontier”

Shared Parenting Misconceptions in Ohio

By Robert "Chip" Mues   |   September 22nd, 2012

Previously my colleague, Anne Shale, posted a very informative article laying out the legal distinctions between sole legal custody and shared parenting in Ohio. Here is the link to her article.  Even though it was posted 3 years ago, the information is still correct.  Nonetheless, I think it would be helpful to expand, clarify and shoot down several shared parenting myths.

Shared parenting requires an equal parenting time allocation.

Not true.  The hallmark of shared parenting is that both mother and father stand on the same legal footing with respect to custody.  Each are equal legal custodians of their child(ren).  Customarily, there is a provision in the plan that specifies whether mother or father’s city of residence is designated for schooling purposes. But this designation does not carry with it any greater custodial rights.  Under a shared parenting arrangement, the actual parenting time allocation can vary anywhere from a 50/50 split to just a few overnights per month for a parent.… View Full Article → “Shared Parenting Misconceptions in Ohio”

Minimalization: How We Accept the Unacceptable

By Guest Contributor Donna F. Ferber, LPC, LADC   |   September 15th, 2012

Minimalization: Accepting the Unacceptable

Minimalization: A Case Study of Jane

Jane was married for twenty five years. Her husband filed for divorce, and Jane struggled to understand what happened. “Disappointed,” was Jane’s response when I queried as to how she felt. Over and over she spoke of her disappointment.

Jane was diagnosed with depression during the marriage. She shut down emotionally. She was not accessible to her husband or children. I asked her if she was happy in the marriage. “Not really, but life is hard.” Her husband, a dominant, verbose guy, didn’t like to hear Jane’s complaints, so after a while she learned to keep them to herself. She tried to minimize them, (“This is not that important”) or rationalize them (“He really didn’t mean that”). Years of minimizing her own pain and trying to hold it in turned into depression for Jane. She wasn’t just disappointed. She was really, really angry.… View Full Article → “Minimalization: How We Accept the Unacceptable”

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